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Your Choices....Your Story

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Becoming Your Own VIP Mind, Body, and Soul

Episode: "Your choices …your story…." Streamed 2/2/2023


Your current life is the arena, school, the ultimate battle which you are to overcome internally & externally….in the bible there was the exodus from Egypt, David and Goliath, Jacob working 14 years for Racheal, Ruth finding her Boaz, Jesus and the temptations he faced, betrayal, and sacrifice. Each day we are in the wilderness with temptations, fears, insurmountable odds within our own minds, and the world supporting whatever choice you make.


If you believe you can’t; the world will show you that you can’t. If you believe you’re worthless the world will show you that you are worthless. If you believe you are worthy of love the world will show you in all the ways you are loved, if you believe you can overcome any obstacle then the world will show you that because you are the writer of your own story. The story you are writing right now in the wilderness is one influenced, imposed, and programmed by other people’s experiences and knowledge.


Your task is to learn through the experiences to understand, grow to learn the lesson to do better, choosing love, purity, virtue, righteousness, nobility, courage, strength, integrity, authenticity, kindness, compassion, generosity, faith, and gratitude for all that you have in the challenging and flourishing times.


You are presented with light or darkness in which you choose to show up in the world as. Choosing the light does not mean things will be perfect....no…..the darkness will come to test your will, your morals, values, and character. The Bible explains how you can be tested and face all of the emotions, and the opposition within and from your own family and society. The stories personalize what we all face and the consequences of overcoming it or succumbing to it.


The only thing in this world we have truly in our power is ourselves and through our free will to choose how we will show up in every area and aspect of our lives.


What you ingest daily influences the story you create for yourself……choice, by choice, by choice…every choice leads you down a different path. Your choices are made by the thoughts, habits, behaviors, beliefs, perspectives, words, actions, environments, associations, and what you allow to continue to influence you. Through your 5 gates (5 senses) the choices will keep you in debt or credit.


Your choice is a compound effect (a seed) that you are investing (planting) in through your resources of self, faith, love, time, energy, people, finances, development, and food. Your life, mind, body, heart, and soul.


In these choices and actions that are positive or negative compound into a larger impact and result. Your harvest is reflected in the seasons of your life of the seeds you have invested in. Are you in poverty or flourishing in all areas and aspects of your life? Not just financially but morally, in the fruits of the spirit, or in fear, worry, depression, anger. How are you stewarding your life and resources internally and externally?


Who do you allow to be your counsel whenever you have a problem, who do you hang around with daily as your partner, family, friends, or acquaintances, what do you eat and drink, what do you read, what do you listen to, the tv or social media you watch, the music you listen to, the video games you play. These choices influence the path you choose and the story you write for yourself.


The things that are negative, toxic, and not adding or building you up but tearing you down begin to slowly corrode you and desensitize you the more and more you are exposed to them. Exposing yourself to things you should have never known (exposed to it at an early age) or at any age where you were not yet equipped with the tools to handle it appropriately.


Peer pressure, socialization, lacking empathy, ignorance, falsehoods, and propaganda that you have not educated or equipped yourself with tools or healing to discern spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Feelings of fear, powerlessness, hopelessness, worry, victim, disempowered, or weak in whatever area of life were impacted (harvested) by absorbing like a sponge those influences.


Scary movies plant seeds of all of the scenarios of fear that you would not have known about and lack real knowledge to truly aid you spiritually, mentally, emotionally, or physically so that you are equipped to understand how exposing yourself planted that seed that is growing within you of what you just ingested (fear). The people with a negative mindset, speech, gossip, vanity, materialism, highly sexualized, violent, toxic, excessive in food, alcohol, drugs, lacking in compassion, empathy again lacking knowledge of the seeds being planted into your mind, body, and soul slowly corroding you pulling you deeper into being dead in your sins.


How would you flourish if you surrounded yourself with highly motivated people that were aware of themselves spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally? Those who are hardworking to build themselves and others up through compassion, love, kindness, and generosity, who were humble but confident and strong and did not need to tear people down to be heard, respected, valued, because they know who they are and are emotionally intelligent, and understanding the impact positivity has to heal a situation but also the spiritual consequence if they chose to fall from love and grace just to lower themselves to anything negative such as fear, anger, or hate.


Being positive plants seeds that harvest in many ways such as successful relationships, joy, knowledge, insight, love, kindness, empathy, confidence, motivation, determination, resilience, compassion, and the resources that build you up, secure, and stabilize you. All of the daily choices that come every second, every minute, the thoughts, the judgments, actions, all these things that can build you up or tear you down to believe that is who you are, the way people are, and the way life is not realizing you are observing and picking up on the things from a wounded society where ultimately in our own unique ways internally are seeking what the outer world programs you to think you need to equip yourself with to achieve the inner needs you’ve not yet fulfilled within. Joy, happiness, safety, stability, passion, peace, excitement, value, respect, fulfillment, meaning, forgiveness, mercy, to be accepted, and loved.


The experiences you witness others successful in and you attempt to adopt and lack knowledge in how much work you would have to put in. You saw the success but failed to understand what that person had to go through to get there. To be successful does not come easily it is about developing yourself with the proper knowledge and tools to acquire and maintain it.


Social media, movies those things we envy is seeing one snippet of time but could be false because internally they may be in need of healing and that picture was their worldly way to get attention for that temporary band-aid or they may truly be blessed and celebrating the glory of their accomplishments. Both stories are duality, and no one knows the pain and challenges it took for the person to actually get there. One healed, one hurting ....both knew pain...but how do you rise above it or continue with the band-aids and cycles …. because there is no easy way.


A lot of us may not know we have a choice being used to the pain and cycles in our own prison being ok with the small wins, and band-aids only to really still be suffering. There is a pain to pull yourself up from the darkness by creating a new you and shedding the old you. There is also the pain of remaining where you are. Any area needing healing will bubble up in your mind, heart, body, and soul. There will also be a mirror in the external world showing you what there is to heal even when your life is 80% thriving what about the 20% you that continues to repress and hide away….you can’t hide from it and there will come a season when that trigger comes to have you face what you are hiding. It is a continuous learning to cleanse, purge, and till your soil of the past and all that you ingest daily.


When people seek the easy way, it is an imitation, false, not of God because what knowledge had you really gained to cherish the blessing of what you have? The easy way did not teach you the value of who you are and what it took to mold you into the victor and the morals and character you need to maintain it. That which is false and not of God will eventually crumble and burn once the first challenge arises. The belief you cannot be anything better than as far as your family or friends have gotten, or seeing one succeed in comparison, envy, and jealousy, or just the belief that it should be you who deserves it. The lesson is to rise above that darkness with gratitude for that person but to also hear God saying to you I am showing this to inspire you in finding that thing in you that you have within to succeed as well. The nay-sayings of others or the own nay-saying within your own mind to tear down a person is the seed to be uprooted because it is a mirror reflecting back at you to now rise up and take steps internally and externally to now go after what you dream of.


Again it is an internal calling it may not be sitting on a beach your soul is asking you to pursue but maybe it is the peace, joy, and to get away from the chaos so you can be alone with yourself to find yourself and who you really are, and your true purpose. Remember your soul is seeking something much deeper than the material things that you cannot take with you that is the EGO/the worldly you.


Your soul is seeking the experiences to learn and grow, to serve, love, kindness, and generosity, to come out of the darkness of the selfish ways, and into the light the selfless way. Material things are a second to that, but we made the material the priority and the world is a reflection of that.


As a young girl, there was this cartoon about this little kid who in order to walk to school their environment was a bad neighborhood (your wilderness, your Egypt) you have drug dealers on the corner, alcohol stores on every corner, gang members, and bullies. Adult movies reveal the same including now sexual temptations of prostitutes, strip clubs, technology, night clubs to go party and drink, fast food chains, pawn shops… movie theaters, and the movies and the snacks they serve all of these things we are exposed to through our 5 senses. Yes, they are fun, feel good, and taste good yet still face those strangers our parents warned us about, those people who deep down inside we know we shouldn’t trust even our acquaintances, the foods and beverages, and the packaging is pretty but is it leading you to poverty and a life of excess or to flourish? Is it adding to you as a credit or taking away as a debit in mind, body, and soul? Choices in your wilderness.


How do you conform, submit, rise above, influence, participate, engage, contribute, and learn while in this wilderness? While you are in the darkness?

Who do you blame in life? Where is your anger directed, where is your guilt and shame stemming from. A lot of people blame God, family, ex’s, people allowed into your circle, food, economy, job, yourself, and whatever else has happened. Holding unforgiveness, pessimism, fears, hurts, and pains that actually hurt you and usually leads to physical distractions as ways to avoid through excess of lovers, going into a relationship after relationship, alcohol, food, spending, friends, stimulation, workaholism, numerous distractions…the excess…. what need are you trying to fill up on externally that you are really supposed to fill up internally? You are hurting yourself through the excess and abusing yourself creating impacts of cause and effect upon yourself mind, body, heart, and soul as well as those who are impacted by your choices. There are some people truly that knew no different and were learning right along with you, but there are some truly dark and intentional acts committed. Pray for help to forgive, and heal this is a step to break the cycle because where they hurt you once, it is now you that is hurting yourself over and over again creating mental anguish, emotional turmoil, physical disease/distress, and a sick soul.


Gaslighting yourself, abandoning yourself, losing trust in yourself, your value, and your worth. It is the darkness that holds you in the self-imposed prison and a retelling of a story that you have already overcome. Shedding the old story, and taking your power back, your love, and that stability was always yours. This is your school, your wilderness, your battle to find your way back to your light, to God, to your healing and all that love is…..


All the times the internal and external signs say yes this is the right person, place, investment, career, dream, or thing is for you! Where does that self-sabotage come in with all of the wounding, habits, additions, lack of tools, and behaviors from the past come in and snatch it away? Your way of thinking, perspective or projections had you looking at all of the negatives vs the positives? Where am I requiring perfection in these things that I have not yet even achieved within myself? Where is the root of my insecurities, fears, worries, doubts, anger, bitterness, and shame impacting the success leading to failure of this opportunity to give and receive love to be fruitful in it right now?


I actually found the thing you fear and avoid most is where you should actually go towards…a relationship (with God, yourself, spouse, purpose, calling, family, finances, home, career, pet, whatever it is) you will be tested in it (do you really want it?) because you will need to shed that wall around your heart, overcome fears, gain knowledge by seeking God & through seeking God you find yourself. Then you are to build up and create that life you prayed for through healing, development, and trials because God is only going to give you what you can handle and if you are not ready, he is not going to bless you with something that will destroy you or the person, career, calling, purpose, family, finances, home, career, or pet that you are praying for. He needs to know you’ve developed spiritual knowledge and wisdom, where you were weak you are now strong, where you were hurt, you have forgiven and are now healed, and where you had wrong thinking, behaviors, addictions, or habits have now been corrected. Where you had sinned, you repented.


“to whom much is given much is required” Luke 12:48


The entire book of Proverbs and the book of Job; I ask everyone to read. Proverbs helps to explain how to conduct yourself and the lessons he learned when he did not. Job helps to explain how even in the trials to have faith, perseverance, and resilience even through trials.


Jesus teaches that those who have faith will be healed, that there is a belief in yourself that you can get up and walk, faith you can see, and that even dead in my sins I can rise again to live. What it means to forgive and to love your neighbors as yourself. I’ve learned it is your faith & prayers that will aid you to overcome.


God will have you review all of this within you, you are the hero you have been waiting for, and you are never alone, God has just been waiting on you to come to seek him. Your choices and your story will become different. It is challenging and a daily workout in areas of your life you never utilized or knew you had in you but step by step it will get easier, and your burden will get lighter until the day you have finally shed the old to step into the new.


“… that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to your deceitful lusts, and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.” Ephesians 4:22-24.




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