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What does your mirror reflect back to you?

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Episode: "What does your mirror reflect back to you"


What does your mirror reflect back to you?


Have you ever helped elevate someone to a different mindset, or position in life consciously or unconsciously raising them on a pedestal and lowering yourself as if you couldn't achieve something good, or great, that you’re not worthy? That's where the mirror is very interesting because you can't see yourself in the mirror, your eyes can only see out to the beauty of other people and things; seeing all that they can be…. their potential (their light). What do we say about ourselves? The saying we are our own worst critics, not realizing what we are doing to ourselves by comparing, complaining, giving up, not taking accountability, judging, and the negative inner talk.

Psalm 36:2 -In their own eyes they flatter themselves too much to detect or hate their sin.


In the bible, mentions to love your neighbors, but also as you love yourself. Your mirror will love you to the extent you love yourself. You attract people that will highlight your wounds for you to see yourself in them; in the way they treat you. The revelation to healing within these relationships is presented so you can heal yourself.


James 2:8 - 8 If you really fulfill the royal law stated in Scripture, “Love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing well. 9 But if you show favoritism, you sin and are convicted by the law as transgressors


Since you cannot see yourself you take on the image of what your 5 senses process through the things you experience with them, the more toxic your environment the more things your 5 senses process what is reflected in front of you and eventually believe that is who you are. Supporting the cycles, patterns, habits, and beliefs created from the wounded place within you not knowing any different.


What is it that you observe in the outer reflection, the outer experience? Loved, book smart, successful, stable, secure, lacking, poor, abused, stupid, not pretty. You see a person’s face, and sense the energy they are giving off displaying emotions every day that are reflecting back at you; do you see and sense love, compassion, truth, laughter, and joy, or do you see sadness, pain, disgust, anger, rage, hate, and lies. Your environment as filth, cluttered, broken, used, mismatched, unorganized or clean, orderly, organized, new, fresh, vibrant. Do you hear gossiping, judging, complaining, hate, anger, jealousy, negativity, profanity, blaming or accountability, compassion, patience, solutions, love, encouragement, support, or positivity? Do you experience violence, abuse verbally/emotionally, unbalanced, not secure or peaceful, supportive, stable, peace, intimacy, vulnerability safe, secure?


What you experience becomes a reflection of whom you think you are. The movies, music absolutely everything influences your 5 gates what you ingest daily. It is not an overnight process but what you ingest you become mind, body, and soul.


Potential in relationships with family, friends, work, or a spouse we see their potential because we see this light in them but they're not fully activating their light because they've not repaired the broken pieces. Their outer mirror was shattered and broken a long time ago and when you saw this light in them that contradicts what they saw and they run from that reflection, or maybe like a wounded animal they reflect back that reflection that the world always showed them they were. Maybe you haven’t either and shattered broken glass is reflecting into another’s shattered glass both reflecting distorted light.


Matthew 7:5- You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.


Love your neighbors, but also as you love yourself by being an example to them to see something different that ignites the desire to release the darkness and come back into wholeness, and your neighbor has provided that same reflection back at you so that you can mirror not as a band-aid but to transform into a lifestyle that continually adds to you both. Love your neighbors, but also as you love yourself help us to see ourselves through them. There's also a verse that talks about the hypocrisy of being a teacher, counsel, or advisor to someone and you yourself are not doing those same things to improve and heal. Positivity reflecting back at you will allow you to grow and mirror that back. Negativity reflecting back at you will dimmish you and mirror that back. In the story, you are currently in how much of your childhood do you see present in your life today? What role have you taken on in this story? What you see in the worldly mirror affects you when you are staring back at your reflection in an actual mirror…face to face with your reflection seeing you, who are you? My environment? What people said I am? What I eat? What I ingested? Who am I??

As a personal testimony, I went into isolation to heal, the outer world was no longer reflecting back at me. No, this time it was my soul which is the mind, the will, and the emotion that played back revealing to me there was nowhere to run, and now is the time to truly heal. It is time to see where I wasn't casting the mirror on myself because I wasn't looking at myself and all that I am in me, as God created.


There was a person I was “trying to be” but it was a falsehood this is when the minute something hard or major happens is when your foundations crumble and break everything apart.


This is where internal gaslighting; is a term that refers to trying to convince someone they’re wrong about something even when they aren’t. The outer mirror is trying to convince you of something dark or sinful but internally you know deep down inside you are not. If you experience gaslighting in your actual relationships and an unsettling within you there is a red flag to audit yourself, this situation, and that this is not you and is not in alignment with what God created you to be. When you see one thing and live in another way that contradicts your truth and it failed you. At first, you may want to blame the other person, or you feel it’s you, but it’s not you or them.


You just haven’t cleansed yourself internally of all you ingested, no detox of mind, body, & soul, no healing, and educating yourself on how to live in love and what you ingested is all you knew so you wouldn’t know how to give it either. When you go straight into a relationship with a person or job that may not want to train you, but also may not be qualified to train you, their temperament, time, energy, and credentials will not lead you to a successful relationship with them. However, if you are to change, develop, and build yourself up pray to God who is your creator teacher, counselor, comforter, and unlimited ability to do all things and is qualified.

Any area of fear, confusion, loss, despair or nothing working out in your favor is a key indicator of where you lack knowledge or understanding in an area or you’re out of alignment. This is the time to take accountability and pray for knowledge, wisdom, and guidance. Then you are also to take action to learn in those areas that will require much of you to evolve and to apply it towards your life. That is why age doesn’t matter if you were not taught, having no model of example, and if you also had walls that pushed things away, as well as not knowing how to receive…..you just weren’t ready until you are ready.


I will say though lessons are learned in both successes and failures, those failures hurt deeply, and you may not want to get back up, but know life will keep going whether you put the effort in or not, dead in our sins, a sick soul, suffering until you wake up to choose differently.


There is so much information out there and the greatest healing is when you shut it all off. Break away from every connection, addiction, and environment that hurts you. The idols that you created a dependency on shut it off and create distance. You will have a revolt inside of you, this is your detox mentally, emotionally, physically, psychologically, and spiritually.


When I did this my mind the thing I was actually running from, & distracting myself in a way that I did not acknowledge the ramblings in my mind now became louder. This is where mental health comes in, we can run in the outer world, but we can never run away from ourselves, our choices, and our pain.


Everything my gates recorded in my mind, body, heart, and soul was in replay, playing over and over and over again, the things I witnessed, words heard, physical assault received, committed, and felt. The chronic illness, all the choices, the past, and what that means for my future. Even the smells of things I knew that hurt me called me back to experience. Detoxing even brought up sins from the movies watched horror, porn, violence, and the music I listened to.


You are in a battle for your soul, your mind, and your body who will win light or dark?


To heal you must pull away; if you have a family then balance that time between them. Have an hour a day, wake up early before everyone else does and retreat from everything else for a while and listen. You are being asked to be accountable for the choices made, repent, and change. You are in a battle to come out of the darkness and your mind is the battlefield.


There is a quote that the mind is the devil’s playground when idol, have nothing to do, and right now your mind is weak. You have been broken down, conditioned, and programmed into being less than what God created you to be.


What is your soul - the mind, the will, and the emotion


Your soul has been under attack the minute we were conceived, and we experienced a lot of things before fully developing and being able to understand why, and who we really are. That joy, purity, love, and innocence were slowly stripped or taken in an instant. We grow with attacks within from those experiences and outwardly observing or experiencing the attacks. Yes, even when we observed by hearing it from another room, watching it, in real life, or in a movie, news, or book we still take in the fear of what was just committed/ingested.


Your soul mind, will, and emotion are under attack daily it is the miracles, blessings, and light shining in to remind us of the light.


I always questioned why God has not stepped in… praying every day and night, not realizing how those prayers were being answered through blessings in the form of grandparents, teachers, strangers, family, friends, or just outright miracles because all I saw was the darkness still occurring.


Hosea 4:6 - My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.


Isaiah 5:13 - Therefore my people are gone into captivity because they have no knowledge: and their honorable men are famished, and their multitude dried up with thirst.


Romans 10:17 - So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God

Luke 11:28 - But he said, Yea rather, blessed are they that hear the word of God, and keep it.


Gratefully I was exposed to God at a young age but pulled away as darkness continued within and around me. God was still in the back of my mind but the knowledge of his words and understanding was not present. The church could never answer my questions and felt pressured to do things that put me in the spotlight when they had no idea what was going on in my life and just wanted to hide.


Trying other churches every so often I saw & heard hypocrisy, and eventually just stopped going at all. Lost, internally I felt and heard guidance but also confusion and emotions that were strong and canceled out that voice at times.......the war in your mind you never knew existed.


By pulling away and observing my daily thoughts, dreams, and day visions/hallucinations as I detoxed from everything. I truly thought I was going crazy but internally I heard within myself to have faith and believed I am ok (mind ) and just get up to go exercise, take a shower, go for a walk, read a book, meditate, and watch an educational video (will ). I had no idea what was going on but to follow that instinct because that was what was keeping me sane along with my family even though they did not understand either. The darkness within had a lot of depression, anxiety, and a lot of fear, and the fear had me wanting to run (emotion).


I realized then that in real life that is what had me pushing away opportunities for love, friendships, and dreams. Fear, an internal fear creating a war within that was preventing me to succeed and giving my power away to it but is also the thing the light is challenging us to overcome and conquer to obtain blessings.


I fought for love, friendships, finances, health, my worth, and my dreams, but it was with fear behind it and truly not being knowledgeable enough to be confident or successful to keep it. Fear was weaved within my life and presented internally and externally, and I was taught that was weak, so I faked the funk instead of learning and becoming educated on it and that “faking the funk” had many repercussions that impacted many.


I reflected on how I tried to fight for relationships I knew were over, but the fear weaved within had me clinging tightly to or chasing it to prevent rejection, failure, and abandonment that was deeply rooted in fear from my past. These things I was asked to face and to heal unknowingly at the time. The way I fought to keep those things out of fear .... was what chased it away because the despair, and rawness of my wounds were present. Weakness exposed, faking the funk ...mask dropped.


Not attractive, but the reflection led me to see where I didn’t want them to reject or abandon me and led me to see how I was actually rejecting and abandoning myself. There were many signs asking me to recognize how I treated myself I was blind at 22, fought to recover my sight, memory, life, and livelihood, and a few years later had to have another surgery, and depression led to weight gain of 400lbs, stress on the body and now stressing my heart, led to me having gastric bypass, neglecting my nutritional needs led to my body shutting down and fought to recover again. During the journey through it all I realized blessings, miracles, and insights that I knew were blessings. Not seeing it fully for what it was I took it as a sign to move forward in relationships not addressing how I am treating myself until this last relationship that was my final wakeup call.


I always prayed for God to save me and my family so I always believed it would be outside help that will finally make everything better, asking for that person, that dream, health, and well-being was going to be fulfilled and happily ever after THE END.


That is not what happens, it is you who must rise up and save yourself it was you who created what you are now living in. God was showing me time and time again how worthy, loving, and strong I am, but I chose not to embody it confidently and consistently.


At home keeping all of this to myself I went through detox and a spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical cleansing within my temple. Purging all the things I ingested that were not loving and kind, and that means I felt it, replayed the images, and heard those words through negative self-talk. I was held responsible to work through it and to learn and grow as to why it happened where I played a role in it, subconsciously self-sabotaging, repenting for the sins I committed, and now learning to do better.


The Bible refers to generational curses and the sacrifice of Jesus to take away our sins and adopt us as sons and daughters again after Adam and Eve ate the apple, and that through Jesus sacrifice he can now help us through the holy spirit. The thing is we are earthly vessels choosing what we filled ourselves up with that will determine if we are dead in our sins or embracing the fruits of the spirit which I went over in other podcasts.


Galatians 4:4-6 4But when the time had fully come, God sent His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, 5 to redeem those under the law, that we might receive our adoption as sons. 6And because you are sons, God sent the Spirit of His Son into our hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!”


Knowledge of God or no knowledge of God the world we live in tests us and the Bible explains that in every story ….Job and David are some examples but all of them we could find pieces of ourselves in them even in today’s time.

Some of these battles were not ours to face but our fathers...mothers...ancestors but since they were not successful it is now up to you to choose differently. They had the same life challenges and did the best they could through their own trials, knowledge, and experiences.


Cut the cycle at the root and choose to do and be better. Develop spiritually, mentally, psychologically, behaviorally, physically, and emotionally that will allow you to stand up to the challenges internally and externally. Show up for those who God places in your path to serve, heal, teach, and love.


Your earthen vessel your temple is to be cleansed within so that those blessing you receive becomes fruitful, whereas in the past it was destroyed. If you go back to your old ways the bible warns of this:


Matthew 12:44 – 45 44“Then it says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came’; and when it comes, it finds it unoccupied, swept, and put in order. 45“Then it goes and takes along with it seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there; and the last state of that man becomes worse than the first. That is the way it will also be with this evil generation.”


This is not an overnight process by the end of every year I was able to see progress and milestones more so internally and there will be more to discover about yourself along the way. Keep moving forward and do not look back to who you were in the past; that was a wounded version of you, you are no longer the same. You are now the reflection of love and light. Anyone you encounter will be able to see, feel, and hear the authentic love, and kindness that is reflected as their outer mirror; and as their reflection .... build them up in the love and kindness within them. Then they reflect that light and love to whomever they come into contact with. In time the broken mirror is repaired and whole; seeing the truth of light reflected within you so that whatever reflection you see on the outside world adapts to you in love…..as a man thinketh you shall become.



There is a book that I ask people to read or listen to it’s called “As a Man Thinketh” By James Allen, it is free on YouTube as an audiobook that was actually very thought-provoking. If your neglect yourself, you are only hurting yourself, the world reflects back to you how you choose to show up for yourself internally. There is no one to blame, but there is a big spotlight on it asking you to look past your initial defiance, stubbornness, pain, and fear ...whatever it is and begin to learn more about you and by doing this you will understand more of others.


How to heal your soul:

Is by gaining an understanding of God and what is in the bible to strengthen your relationship with God, Jesus’ teachings, and what his sacrifice actually means for us. Understand the holy spirit and what it means to be a spiritual being; that Jesus is within us and how to love your neighbor as you love yourself.


Luke 10:26-28 26“What is written in the Law?” Jesus replied. “How do you read it?” 27 He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’ and ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’” 28“You have answered correctly,” Jesus said. “Do this and you will live.”…


Everything is about building a healthy loving relationship with God, self, family, spouse, friends, money, home, plants, pet. Always put God first and if there be any abuse, excess, neglect, sin or darkness upon these things we have already experienced the consequences and it creates debt, and being dead in your sins, whereas treating it with love, kindness, grace, and all that love is (1Corithians 13: 4-8) leads to blessings and life.

The mind,

Your mental well-being – Stand tall and be the guardian of what you allow in, what you say to yourself, what you believe, your behaviors, habits, and beliefs. Do not take things personally. Develop self-awareness, self-control, self-care, humility, faith, belief, compassion, kindness, love, patience, courage, bravery, strength, and service. Learn about your mind, neuroscience, neuroplasticity, afformations, affirmations, nutrition, hydration, sleep, physical fitness, positive thinking, and scriptures. Develop mental fortitude, mental strength, and breathwork.

Philippians 4:8 “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

The will

Etymology

noun - mind, determination, purpose; desire, wish

Verb – to wish, desire; be willing; be used to; be about to

to determine by act of choice,


You are the only one stopping you, develop the will to complete your goals

Be willing to change for the better

Recognize the want to cling to the old because that is what you know and have the will to have faith to overcome the fear of the unknown. The idea of growth, triggers our need for safety and to remain stagnant in our comfort zone, have the will to take one step at a time.

Have the will to witness the duality in

the choices you have each day throughout life between safety and growth, dependence and independence, regression on and progression, immaturity and maturity, upside down way of thinking right side up, and more than what is negative has a positive. Have the will to choose the positive action that adds to you.

Have the will to create good routines, new habits, patterns, behavior, and beliefs.




The emotion

Repent, Forgive, and Heal by processing the emotions. Be prepared for the intensity, discomfort, and what they mean; seek help from a therapist if needed.

Develop emotional tolerance, emotional intelligence, and self-regulation.

Resilience

Practice giving yourself grace, self-kindness, self-acceptance, and self-compassion.

Discipline, Consistency

Be ok with feeling lonely (you are not alone)

Perseverance

Ability to take responsibility & accountability.

Be authentic, have integrity, values, morals, and characteristics described in the bible that aligns you with love, light, and God’s precepts & laws.

Notice your resistance to change, to heal, to forgive, to love, to trust and reflect and pray for help, with thanksgiving for the answer, for the healing, for the deliverance.


Develop self-awareness to know if anxiety, boredom, despair, inability to enjoy, aimlessness, emptiness, a lack of identity, guilt, and shame is caused by needing to heal or choosing not to grow. I ask that you be open to heal & grow because if we continue to run, continue the cycles, life keeps going and if we cling to what we know one day you’ll look back on a life that never was, an unconscious life lived on autopilot filled with regrets and missed opportunities. You are never too old, and we all are worthy to heal and live fully in our light, cleanse our soul, and when weighed and measured we have a full plentiful harvest of experiences of love, kindness, joy, faithfulness, and that the gifts blessed upon us have served many positively for their betterment.
















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