Duality of the Relationship Within You

Duality of the relationship within us, the inner masculine and feminine.

It's not about another person all those times you had breakups; all the times you walked away, the times they walked away. It's a relationship you had as an outer experience of the pieces of you that you broke up with the abuse, infidelity, toxicity, fears, and insecurities. The things you didn't like you see plain as day in the outer relationship but internally we are not breaking up with it internally only outwardly and cycles continue because you have yet to resolve the inner relationship within….we're avoiding it and we're going out and drinking smoking and doing whatever we can to drown out the toxicity and the bad relationship that's abusive within ourselves and it's time to break up with that portion of darkness within us.

Before you get into a relationship it's to understand that all those times when we blame people it was never about what that person did to us.

Both came to each other wounded in some way with our walls crumbling and we were looking for them to restructure or resurrect us in some way to support an internal need that we have not yet satisfied for ourselves.

To be built back up… it's not their fault they tried to change us because maybe they weren’t trying to change you, maybe they were just trying to apply that caulking; that plaster to what they saw was crumbling or to change you to fill the pieces within them that they needed you to fill.

Whenever you have an open hole, something's going to fill it…. it's either going to be filled by you, someone, or some things idea of who you should be and that's what we misinterpret.

This is where lacking knowledge impacts not just you but many. It is the inner you that you are to heal and evolve into a better version of yourself. What I recognize is we are an evolutional society.

It's not about changing; it's not about you not being good enough or any of that stuff….. it's about your evolution. It's up to you to evolve or the environment is going to evolve you and that's going to be for the positive or the negative if you're not in control of yourself.

The Bible is filling you up with God his precepts, his rules, and his way of showing you how to live so that you avoid those consequences unless you so choose to conduct yourself in a way that will harm you.

We know that if you go outside in the cold without a coat you know you're going to have some type of repercussion, right? Well, if you go out into the wilderness without tools you know you're going to have some type of repercussion but if you are fully equipped and also have all the skill sets to hunt and come home with that food if you are out in the winter you are all bundled up you're not going to be affected and impacted by the environment.

No one else is going to have to fill any part of you that is missing…. now your tools may need to be sharpened and you know you're hunting partner or whomever you're traveling with during the winter. You know they may have some good ideas but that's what partnership is...they're not filling something that was missing in you…. they're just helping you sharpen your iron, your steel, you’re understanding…… they're not having to put their understanding upon you and vice versa.

It's not about changing it's about evolving; it's about evolving together, it's about evolving as an individual, but your job is to evolve yourself first otherwise you're going to want to put blame on that other person, people, or things that are impacted because of your lack of knowledge.

This is your evolution…. you evolve every time we hit a birthday, it's an evolution every time we hit a new season, it's evolution every time you start a new job, it's an evolution every time you have a child, it's an evolution when you have your next child because guess what.... that last child's not the same as the other child and you will have to evolve and change and grow into that.

What’s created by your choices .......it's the effects of those choices that are made that impact you and many others…. it's evolution…. it's you're causing an effect in your life and other lives... there are consequences and there are things that you are to heal.

There are things that you are to heal, there are things that you are to gain knowledge of so that you're adding to people's lives, that you're adding to your life, and not taking away and you're not becoming that story of victimhood within yourself or causing it upon another person...... your responsibility is to love yourself as you love your neighbor, to be kind and to be generous. These things have no negative impacts just impacts that add to people.

Now when you're serving a person that is hurt depending on the depth of darkness and you know what has all taken place in their lives…. you know that is up to them to take it upon themselves to see, give, and receive love, kindness, and some type of help to help sharpen their sword, and to give them some type of knowledge and insight like a lot of our partners do in life whether it's our parents or our partners or our friends or family.

They are doing their best in their own way to help you…now when it's truly hurtful then that's a different thing but it does help you…. it shows you what you do like and what you don't like …. what you will tolerate…. what you won't tolerate.... things of that nature ...but It is up to you to grow up to evolve.

Your soul records all this .... you are being measured... you are being weighed ....and you know what story you leave behind through the choices you make by choosing to love or by choosing to hate, by choosing to hold grudges, or choosing to forgive.

How you impact your life impacts your soul, how you impact another soul ... the minute you don't forgive that hurts you because you're never going to be able to open yourself up fully to another or to yourself ...to the life that you live and the gifts of love, you have to share.

It all begins with the relationship within...